Q My problem is my best mate.
We’ve been friends since school back in Oz and we’ve always had fun trying to pull chicks out on the piss.
The problem is now I’m keen to find something serious – and he does everything he can to ruin my chances.
How can I tell him to grow up?
A What we have here is a classic case of cock-blocking – interfering with another’s attempt at courtship.
Your friendship might go way back – but like a lot of male friendships, it sounds as though there’s little in the way of touchy-feely emotional soul-bearing. And fair enough too.
But next time it happens bring it up the following day over a beer, in a friendly way, to let him know it’s not on.
Deep down he’d know what he’s doing isn’t right, but you need to reassure him you’re not going to blow him off completely for a chick.
Once the uncomfortable emotional chat is over, do something manly like drink beer and talk footy.
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