Q. I‘ve been seeing a guy and we’re getting to the stage of having sex, but he has just revealed he is a virgin. He’s 23. Is that weird?
Reuben says: Provided you approach it with the requisite sensitivity, there is no need for his lack of experience to present any obstacle to you enjoying a mutually satisfying sex life.
You should explain that your expectations are low anyway and then move on to sharing a scented bath.
From there, I think it’s your job to seduce him and put him at ease. I find that plucking a tune on a lyre, accompanied with some throat-singing, sets the mood just right.
I suppose you should also be prepared for it to go pear-shaped. If he can’t get it up or doesn’t last very long, you will need to be understanding.
When I was 15, I lost my virginity to one of my mother’s friends in the neighbourhood. Needless to say, it was a fairly brief encounter, but she made it better by stroking me to sleep after reading to me from my favourite book.
Ruby says: It’s a little bit unusual, but you should go with it. After all, there’s nothing quite as satisfying as helping a boy become a man.
And, ultimately, he’s like an unmoulded ball of sexy clay – you can train him to rattle it around just the way you like without having to correct years of bad technique.
I remember my first virgin. It was at my year 11 formal – I had already been with heaps of guys but my date was as yet unsullied.
After I spiked his punch at the after party, we headed out front to his mustard Ford Fairlane and made sweet love on his squeaky back seat while Meat Loaf’s Paradise By The Dashboard Light played on the crackling Casio car stereo.
I shagged my second virgin later that night. It’s one of life’s great joys, so don’t look a gift horse in the mouth.