Q My ex-boyfriend and I broke up two years ago before I came over, but he’s arrived in town. I still love him and he wants to get back together, but I feel like I need to move on. What should I do?

A You can’t escape from your past. Ever.

My mate, Dennis, was a super-soldier engineered by the government, but he had his memory wiped out after Vietnam and was turned loose into a world he wasn’t hard-wired for.

He’s spent the last 35 years piecing it all together and now works in IT support.

He says that on still nights he can still hear Charlie screaming in the jungle.

Ending a relationship can be like coming back from the war. You travel round the world from year to year, but each one finds you aimless, one more year the worse for wear. You’ve been back to south-east Asia but the answer sure ain’t there.

It sounds as if you have unfinished business with your ex; get back with him long enough to get closure and then move on for good. War is hell.

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